I was cleaning out my email today and came across this little gem.
Yep, I'm glad I'm married!
February 26, 2008
Daniel,
First of all, I had some reservations about you from early on. I had the inclination that you are a bit flaky. You would call me and then say you would call again at a later time that same evening and never do it. You would get off the phone abruptly and say that you would call "right" back and call three days later. I wasn't sure I wanted to go out with you and felt a bit apprehensive. After talking to a friend I thought I would give you the benefit of doubt and go ahead with it.
After our phone conversation on Saturday morning I started to feel a little uneasy. Some of the things that you had said really bothered me. It seems that you are very concerned about what other people are doing, almost as though you are trying to justify to yourself things that maybe you yourself are doing. I don't care how many men, women, or ward members drink, smoke, do drugs or are into porn. I was also very uncomfortable when you were talking about you and your wife's sex life. That was inappropriate and to early to discuss. The only reason I mentioned to you that my ex-husband and I had no problems in that area is because I was under the impression you felt as though his cheating was somehow my fault. It was not.
Saturday when you called at 5:25 to let me know you were running late and would be another 25 minutes I was fine with that, things happen. After waiting for 20 minutes I decided to ask if you wanted to meet somewhere to eat, as a woman I feel more comfortable meeting for the first time in a public place - not a parking lot. When you called and said that you had eaten an hour ago and suggested I go to the food court to get something to eat, to put it mildly I was appalled. When you then revealed you were still 35 minutes away I was further appalled. What grown man asks a woman out, eats before he comes, shows up an hour late and then to add insult to injury suggests she go to the food court if she is hungry? What kind of person - who has daughters - would think it is ok to just take a lady out to his car in the parking lot of the mall to "get to know each other better"? I am a great catch and was very irritated at your lack of thinking that there was anything wrong with this behavior. First dates are a time to impress the person you are going out with - I am not impressed.
Hi Laurie,
I am very sorry for the bad impression. Truely, it wasn't as it seemed. After reading your email I can see how it came across that way. I apologize a thousand times. I really am interested in you. I do have a busy life but I didn't realize how it came across over the phone. I am a little laid back sometimes but that is often because I am comfortable with the person I am getting to know as I thought I did with you. I didn't realize you were feeling the way you did in your email. Honestly, it would have been easy to say all this to me in person I'm not hard to talked to. And it would have given me the opportunity to clean up what you thought of me. You do seem like a catch that's why I wanted to meet you. It would have been an honor for me. As for the eating at the food court I didn't realize how it sounded. Again, I apologize. I did wait there for a while (at the mall) in hope that you would change your mind but I don't blame you for feeling that way. I got what I deserve. I should have been more mindful and I hope you can forgive me. I've enjoyed our phone dates and I would sincerely love another opportunity to meet you in person. It would be ashame after coming this far into getting to know you that I don't get to meet you in person as well but I would understand if you chose not to. There is no hard feelings.
Sincerely,Daniel
Daniel,
I'm sorry but I'm no longer interested.
I too have a busy life, 5:30 wasn't that convent for me. I was running errands all day, I didn't even get in the shower until 4:20, I left my 3-year-old crying at home because he didn't want me to leave - I was still there on time with out excuses. I said I would be there and I was. The fact that you were so complacent about it is troublesome. I fell like you lied to me when you said that you were only 25 minutes away because it is easier to ask for forgiveness than to tell the truth that you haven’t even left Provo yet and you are going to be 60 min – not 25. All my life I have been treated like this from men and I’m not going to stand for it anymore. We teach people how we want to be treated, and this is not acceptable. In the future, when you date women, don’t get to comfortable after 2 weeks. It is a complete turn off. I left my marriage for the same behavior you displayed this weekend, I will not be sucked into that kind of a relationship again. Good luck, I hope you find what you are looking for – she just isn’t me.
Hi Laurie,
Honestly, I wasn't making excuses. I had one delay after the other before I was to meet with you. I was trying to be calm about it when I was talking to you. I am so sorry that I made the mistake of assuming. I agree, you deserve to be treated well. I want to be that person who gives you that attention. I really would like another opportunity to meet you in person and do better. Honestly, I think you will be happy to find that I am not what you had a bad impression about. At least talk to me on the phone again and find out, what do you have to lose. You might even feel better beating me up over the phone. Again, I am very very sorry you got the wrong impression about me. Please think about it. Again, at least give it a try you have nothing to lose.
Sincerely,
Daniel
I didn't respond to the last one - and looking back now I really think he was married. And I was kind or a b word.
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